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In case you ever wondered what baby otters looked and sounded like

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In case you ever wondered what baby otters looked and sounded like

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Deleted scene from Avengers: Endgame (2019)
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Deleted scene from Avengers: Endgame (2019)

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the only time "the q word" is an ok term is when it's about qu*et when you're at work

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.  Photo by @neelsureja1999 Green Vine Snake. #wild #snake #nature #wildlife #herpetology #indianwildlife #indiaview #vinesnake...

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. Photo by @neelsureja1999 Green Vine Snake. #wild #snake #nature #wildlife #herpetology #indianwildlife #indiaview #vinesnake...

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I asked my cat what was going on and he flopped over and rolled onto his back. I asked my other cat what was going on and he...

It’s awkward when people ask me “Is this snake venomous?” about little rear-fanged colubrids like garter, hognose, and ring-neck snakes because, on one hand, they do technically produce venom... but that venom is virtually inconsequential to humans even when they do manage to break the skin. Their saliva has venom in it but you probably wouldn’t even know it unless you were studying its chemical makeup.

Much easier to say they’re harmless.

Next time just tell them technically speaking a cat is venomous and ask them if that was really the question they wanted to ask.

Cats aren’t venomous—they don’t produce and inject toxins. They do, however, have lots of bacteria in their mouths and lots of sharp, curved teeth that make it very easy for that bacteria to get into your flesh and cause bad infections. Chemically speaking, that’s not the same as venom.

Garter snakes have bacteria in their mouths just like any other animal and bites can cause infections, but they also produce neurotoxic venom that they inject with their fangs. The venom is so mild that it only causes maybe a little temporary itching or swelling in humans, and the fangs are so small and placed so far back in their mouths that it’s very difficult for them to successfully bite and envenomate humans at all. We didn’t know they were venomous at all until about twenty years ago.

People ask “are they venomous?” from a place of fear, usually—they want to know if they should worry about their kids and pets encountering them. “No” would be untrue but “yes” would be misleading, but they usually don’t want to anxiously wait through a Well, Technically explanation.

Try “yeah, but it’s like a bee sting” or something similar

Bee stings can be a big deal for some people. Typically I say “they’re harmless” or “they’re only venomous if you’re a tiny mouse”.

like daddy long legs!

The arachnids I usually see called “daddy longlegs” are opiliones/harvestmen, which look like Q-tips with long spindly legs that always walk around on your tent or picnic blanket. They aren’t spiders and don’t actually have any venom glands at all.

Common cellar spiders are also called “daddy longlegs”, and while, like almost all true spiders, they do have venom, their fangs are small and weak and their venom isn’t potent enough to cause harm to a human. Instead, they sometimes hunt and kill other spiders that are of medical significance.

What do you mean they aren’t spiders???

“Arachnid” is the class of arthropods that spiders, scorpions, and a few other orders belong to. Opiliones/harvestmen/daddy longlegs aren’t spiders, but they look superficially similar to them. Unlike spiders, they don’t have fangs, venom, or silk glands, and their thorax and abdomen are fused together into one cute little pod-shaped body with eyes on top.

Cellar spiders are spiders. They can make silk, have venom, and have an obviously separated thorax and abdomen. They don’t bother people apart from spinning webs in annoying places inside your house, but they are spiders.

Wait a dang second, if Daddy longlegs aren't spiders and can't make silk, what.. What at they holding on to my ceiling????

Those are cellar spiders. People call both cellar spiders and opiliones “daddy longlegs”, and if that weren’t bad enough, some people even use that name for craneflies. They’re not even in the same class!

That’s why any use of “daddy longlegs” has to include a clarification or description of the animal. Where I grew up, only opiliones are called “daddy longlegs”, and there’s a very common myth that they possess the most deadly venom in the world but aren’t strong enough to bite humans. People will smash them and justify it with that myth, but opiliones aren’t spiders and don’t have any venom at all.

These are opiliones, also called harvestmen and daddy longlegs:

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These are cellar spiders, also also called daddy longlegs:

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Both are harmless to humans, but the first isn’t even a spider. Everything referred to as “daddy longlegs” has long legs and deals zero damage.

Okay, see, I knew that first one, but I thought that second one was called a brown recluse. I see those guys all the time but I don't bother them (I think it's bad luck to kill spiders, so if they really scare me I'll just capture them and put 'em outside)

Oh... no. A brown recluse is a particular species of spider (Loxosceles reclusa) with bites of medical significance. They’re quite feared, and their bites can cause serious problems and occasionally hospitalization, but IMHO on average, people are way more scared of them than is reasonable. Any wound that gets infected tends to be blamed on brown recluse even if there is no reason to believe it’s a spider bite.

I know several people who’ve been bitten by them, and while it hasn’t been pleasant, the wounds healed just fine, with minimal localized necrosis that cleared up quickly. I don’t know anyone who’s had to go to the hospital. Some people do get more systematic reactions, especially very young, old, or immuno-compromised people, so definitely give brown recluses a healthy respect and don’t go around like. Blindly sticking your hands into dark crevices where they like to live.

Brown recluse have tan bodies and a distinctive “violin” shaped marking on their thoraxes, but people constantly misidentify any brownish spider as a brown recluse. Importantly, they don’t build webs, so no spider you ever see sitting in a web is a brown recluse. Instead they walk around and catch their prey, like wolf spiders, and build little silk dens for themselves in cracks.

Here are three pictures of brown recluse at different levels of chubbiness:

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The base of the “violin” is where their eyes are, with the neck of the “violin” stretching towards their abdomen. Like most spiders, they only tend to bite when trapped against human skin and prefer dark spaces, so it’s always a good idea to shake out a shoe before putting it on.

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It’s awkward when people ask me “Is this snake venomous?” about little rear-fanged colubrids like garter, hognose, and ring-neck...

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I want this bed 😍 and that cat! 😍  Source: http://bit.ly/2YAE0ig

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I want this bed 😍 and that cat! 😍 Source: http://bit.ly/2YAE0ig

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I want this bed 😍 and that cat! 😍  Source: http://bit.ly/2YAE0ig

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I want this bed 😍 and that cat! 😍 Source: http://bit.ly/2YAE0ig

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My local movie theater thinks they’re hilarious

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My local movie theater thinks they’re hilarious

The appalling travesty that was BBC’s Sherlock has infested the Sherlock Holmes fandom like a malignant tumour so I want you all to know how awesome the OG literary Holmes was:

The literary Sherlock Holmes was an autistic coded character before people knew what autism was. The literary Sherlock Holmes was an explicitly aromantic character before people had a word for that. Literary Holmes solved mysteries not merely for the intellectual stimulation but also out of a genuine desire to do good. He cared deeply about every client. HE WAS NOT A HIGH-FUNCTIONING SOCIOPATH! He could definitely be insensitive and blunt but he was not callous or unfeeling. Literary Sherlock threatened to beat a guy who was being creepy with his own stepdaughter. Literary Sherlock learned to grow past his misogyny after a woman outsmarted him. In particular, he was always respectful to Mrs Hudson, never belittling or talking down to her (the otherwise enjoyable Guy Ritchie films screw this up too). In fact, they got along so well that they were actually a very popular ship back in the day. Literary Holmes would NEVER call Watson an idiot. He was his only friend who he loved and respected, even if he did get frustrated with him sometimes. He didn’t need to belittle others to feel powerful. Literary Holmes and Watson broke into a corrupt man’s house and witnessed him being murdered by a woman he was blackmailing. They knew exactly who she was but they let her get away because they were chaotic good like that. Literary Holmes had HUMILITY: something a smug prig like Steven Moffat will never understand. He could be arrogant but he had a sense of humour and was willing to admit when he was wrong. And he was wrong sometimes because he was a flawed human being, not some gross male power fantasy. Literary Holmes respected the working class and was often disdainful of the rich. In Victorian England! Literary Holmes indirectly caused the death of a guy who abused (and implicitly molested) his daughters and he didn’t give a single fuck about it. At the end of the series, Holmes retires to Sussex to keep bees. Beekeepers are awesome.

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The appalling travesty that was BBC’s Sherlock has infested the Sherlock Holmes fandom like a malignant tumour so I want you all...

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What critters are common in your neighborhood, but really exciting to visitors?  YourWildCity.com | Patreon
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What critters are common in your neighborhood, but really exciting to visitors? YourWildCity.com | Patreon

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it’s #notmyariel bullshit all over again 🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️ *a certain demographic* can go choke
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it’s #notmyariel bullshit all over again 🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️ *a certain demographic* can go choke

Let’s talk about Instagram “influencer” culture. 

My younger brother and his girlfriend are Instagram influencers. They aren’t household names with a million fans apiece, but they each have a decent following. They’ve been featured in various lists and roundups of people whose lives and relationships are #goals, and they both earn a steady income from Instagram. Not enough to make a full-time living, but enough to make pouring hundreds of hours into their Instagram careers worth their while. 

Despite being so close to an Instagram influencer - several of the most popular photos on my brother’s account were taken by me - I have some serious qualms about Instragram “influencer” culture as a whole. I studied the impact of platforms like Instagram in graduate school - I have a master’s degree in clinical psychology, and I spent part of my time in grad school working with a professor who studies the impact of social media on mental health. A recent study found that out of all social media platforms, Instagram is the worst for your mental health. I’ve also had the chance to see firsthand what a life lived on Instagram has meant for my brother, and the toll it continues to take on him. 

So what makes Instagram influencer culture so toxic for both the people who create it and the people influenced by it? For starters:It’s faker than you think. Instagram stars intentionally market themselves as “authentic” and “real” - you are led to believe that you are getting an unfiltered glimpse into someone’s daily life as you follow along with their pictures and their daily stories. In reality, however, a huge amount of time, effort and money goes into the images you see. My brother and his girlfriend take hundreds of photos in order to get one or two shots worthy of posting. Outings are often little more than photoshoots; a “hike” is often just a short walk to a scenic location, followed by hours of photos. Ditto for ice skating, beach days and photos from music festivals. They don’t get to enjoy many of the activities they are depicted doing with big smiles on Instagram, because the focus is on capturing the perfect photo. Photos are often planned weeks in advance, vacations are booked based on which locations will make the best backdrops, and the fancy food in their pictures often goes cold while they get the perfect shot. The fact that they want to create beautiful images is not an issue - after all, the pictures in many mainstream ads are stunning. The issue is that they’re specifically pretending not to be models or advertisers; they are intentionally leading you to believe that what you’re seeing is candid daily life. Which leads me to…

It presents unattainable ideals as everyday life. Instagram influencers roll out of bed in perfect and tastefully-decorated apartments, eat nutritious and visually stunning meals, and lead full, active lives of glamour and adventure. Their skin is never flawed, their hair never out of place, and their outfits never tacky. Again, this isn’t a problem if you are creating an advertisement or a TV show - something that your viewers know is manufactured to look perfect - but Instagram stars hinge their success on pretending that that level of non-stop perfect is their average, daily life. In reality, my brother’s girlfriend piles dirty laundry and books in her bathtub so that her bedroom looks “minimalist” in her photos, and the two of them post weeks-old starry-eyed couple photos with gushy captions even when they are on the verge of breaking up. Influencers themselves tend to be young, attractive, white, thin, able-bodied, middle-class cis people - an ideal that is already unattainable for most people - and yet they present themselves as totally average people. When flaws and problems are revealed, it’s often in a very controlled way, and generally tied in with some kind of pithy advice or mantra. Which brings us to…

It encourages people with no credentials to hand out “expert” advice. This is probably one of the most damaging aspects of influencer culture. 22-year-olds with absolutely no formal training in nutrition, mental health, medicine, dermatology or fitness are handing out “expert” wellness advice - or even designing diets, skincare routines, and workout regimens for others - and feeling increasingly comfortable doing it. Vulnerable people who may have very serious issues lap this advice up, regardless of how unsound or untested it may be; after all, these influencers appear to have perfect lives, and it’s easy to assume that they must know the secrets of health, happiness and clear skin. There are a couple of huge problems with this. For one, many people aren’t actually aware of why they are successful - if a conventionally attractive cis white woman whose parents financially support her tells you that the secret to avoiding stress is meditation and mud masks, you should be skeptical of that advice. People in positions of relative privilege are often blind to the many advantages they have, and will attribute their success to their “wellness routines” or “positive thinking”, rather than the social advantages that are not available to many of their followers. Also, influencers are often peddling advice that they themselves do not follow. My brother’s girlfriend makes money by selling advice on how to make a full-time living while travelling the world, despite the fact that she isn’t actually able to do that. Many influencers who promote extremely restrictive diets and health regimes have admitted that they themselves do not follow these diets. People who are feeling deeply insecure about their bodies, relationships, careers, lifestyles and productivity are turning to advice from people who aren’t qualified to help. And why does every Instagram star suddenly seem to be offering themselves up as a “wellness” expert? It’s because…

It exists to sell you things, while pretending otherwise. As much as the influencer community presents itself as being all about “authenticity”, “expression”, “empowerment”, or “wellness”, at the end of the day, it is all about trying to sell you things, even if that means exploiting your deepest insecurities. A company that employs plus-sized models to represent their $90 leggings is still a company that, at the end of the day, is trying to sell you $90 leggings, and if they have to pay someone to convince you that these leggings are the only thing standing between you and finally loving your body and having the courage to chase your dreams, then that’s exactly what they are going to do. It is an advertisement, dressed up as self-help and inspiration from an ordinary person who just wants you to succeed. If you find that you feel bad about yourself after a couple of minutes of scrolling through your instagram feed, that’s the impact that the app is meant to have on you. People who are completely satisfied with themselves and their lives don’t buy things they don’t need - making you feel like your life should be better is the key to selling you a wide variety of products. 

Does all this mean that Instagram is evil, or that influencers are bad people? Of course not. They are people trying to make money through self-expression, and many produce interesting and engaging content. Many of them are very young, and may not think about the impact that they might be having on their followers. I certainly don’t think that any of them set out to deceive people. But it is important to think critically about the media we consume, the purpose of that media, and the message it carries. I have known many people, both personally and professionally, who find that they feel worse about themselves after spending an afternoon scrolling through social media, and I think it’s important for all of us to examine why that may be, and take steps to protect our own mental health.

As a strange footnote to this post, my brother and his girlfriend have now broken up, but have agreed to continue pretending to be a couple on Instagram for a few more weeks, as they have a cache of “couple” photos together that they don’t want to waste. Remember, it’s faker than you think. 

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Let’s talk about Instagram “influencer” culture.  My younger brother and his girlfriend are Instagram influencers. They aren’t...

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Tylor Bradshaw and Vinicíus Silva dancers with Oklahoma City Ballet photographed by Ore Adesina

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Tylor Bradshaw and Vinicíus Silva dancers with Oklahoma City Ballet photographed by Ore Adesina

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MAK TUMANG Honey Bee dress
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MAK TUMANG Honey Bee dress

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The Good Omens theme being performed at the Royal Albert Hall, October 18, 2019. With introduction by Neil Gaiman (and featuring...

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The Good Omens theme being performed at the Royal Albert Hall, October 18, 2019. With introduction by Neil Gaiman (and featuring...

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when Flower comes to town

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when Flower comes to town

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Flower gets a visitor in his postgame interview ~ 10.19.19

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Flower gets a visitor in his postgame interview ~ 10.19.19

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Deep Cuts: Patriot Act with Hasan Minhaj
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Deep Cuts: Patriot Act with Hasan Minhaj

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literally anything can be going on in a goalies head at any given point

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literally anything can be going on in a goalies head at any given point

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Enjoy a little restoration of your faith in humanity

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Enjoy a little restoration of your faith in humanity

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I hate when people ask me, ‘What did you do today?’ Buddy listen, I woke up at noon and then it was five p.m., okay, I don’t...

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A look back on the times Republicans said Obama was disgracing the dignity of the presidency. 
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A look back on the times Republicans said Obama was disgracing the dignity of the presidency. 

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IT’S OCTOBER 
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IT’S OCTOBER 

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The worlds most Halloweeny snake 🐍🎃
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The worlds most Halloweeny snake 🐍🎃

I still don’t get how tumblr spent a decade bitching every time JK Rowling opened her mouth, then jumped down Neil Gaiman’s throat for radically embracing death of the author and saying that any Word of God he might utter is just his headcanon.

Like. This is the better option, guys.

Neil Gaiman is the anti-Rowling and that’s very sexy of him

Honestly I love his approach to headcanons and stuff, because it encourages creativity in the fandom and that’s wonderful

This one gets it.

What he’s saying isn’t “your headcanon is wrong.” He’s saying “I didn’t write that part, but feel free!” And that is the healthiest attitude toward fandom I’ve seen in years.

Including from fandom.

It’s also avoiding a lot of the stuff that’s pissing people off about Marvel:

If it’s not in the finished product, there is no canon about it. There are no interviews about things that happened off-screen that weren’t even alluded to. What happens on the screen (and maybe in the script book) are the grand total of the show canon. And everything else considered, even his ideas, are just headcanons. 

And that’s amazing

But, here’s a good chunk of the fandom backlash against him headcanoning instead of delivering the Word of God:

Without being able to seek the approval of Fandom God, there is no Word of God with which to smack down the infidels who have the Wrong Headcanon. Because surely they can be proven wrong… except they actually can’t, and that ambiguity can be 1. too much to handle or 2. not satisfying enough when you only want it as a tool in an argument. Thus, it becomes time to lash out against Fandom God for abandoning us or withholding from us in our Crusade To Be Right.

Goes without saying that all of this is amazingly appropriate, given the subject matter of the work. 

Look, Good Omens is the Great Plan, okay, but NOBODY knows if it’s the Ineffable Plan.

@tzikeh: #maybe the real Ineffable Plan is the headcanons we made along the way

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I still don’t get how tumblr spent a decade bitching every time JK Rowling opened her mouth, then jumped down Neil Gaiman’s...

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In the year of our lord 2019 Joseph Gordon-Levitt is still out here posting dreamhusbands content 😭😭😭😭

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In the year of our lord 2019 Joseph Gordon-Levitt is still out here posting dreamhusbands content 😭😭😭😭

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Engraved jade-handled boot knife and matching scabbard, by Jot Singh Khalsa, engraved by Lynton McKenzie

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Engraved jade-handled boot knife and matching scabbard, by Jot Singh Khalsa, engraved by Lynton McKenzie

SeEdLesS, dEliCiOus, eXoTic jams

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SeEdLesS, dEliCiOus, eXoTic jams

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Recreated Tang-dynasty outfits based on cave paintings
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Recreated Tang-dynasty outfits based on cave paintings